How To Deal with Job Search Anxiety

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Dear Selfless Esteem,
I often worry about my job search. I’ve had interviews and been rejected. What can I do?

Dear Worrier,

The good news is that you’ve made it far enough in the process to be selected for interviews. However, you stated you’ve been worried because you haven’t been hired. Actually, the word you used was “rejected.” To decrease your worrying, a good starting point would be to reframe your thoughts in a positive way. E.g., you weren’t “rejected;” it just wasn’t the right fit.

Read on for more tips to help you mentally and emotionally throughout your job search. 😊

Searching for a Job Position

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First of all, consider getting a career counselor aka career coach to assist you with navigating this process and making progress toward your career goals.

Next, find a competent therapist to help decrease any anxiety and sadness. See the posts, “What is Wise Counsel and Good Therapy?” and “Why You Need a Therapist ASAP.” You may also be interested in the posts, “Want To Stop Feeling Depressed? Here’s How” and “Finding Hope in Difficult Times.”

Instead of meeting prospective employers for the first time during an interview, maybe you could try a different strategy. For example, you could build a relationship beforehand by volunteering for the company. Another idea is working for a temp agency. In both of those situations, you can get a preview of the workplace, and the employer can get familiar with your work.

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Possibly your friends and family can refer you to their workplaces. Some employers even incentivize their employees to refer people they know.

Most importantly, pray to God for guidance. (For more information about prayer and God’s love, see the posts, “Why Selfless Esteem Is Better Than Self-Esteem,” “The Real Truth About God,” and “How To Pray in 5 Simple Steps.”)

Additionally, meditate on encouraging scriptures, such as the ones below.

“The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord,
And He delights in his way.
Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down;
For the Lord upholds him with His hand.

I have been young, and now am old;
Yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken,
Nor his descendants begging bread.
He is ever merciful and lends;
And his descendants are blessed.”
Psalm 37:23-26

You may also be interested in the post, “How To Stop Worrying About Money.”

Interviewing for a Job Position

Before the Interview

Before your next interview, try using relaxation techniques, such as listening to soothing music. That way, you’ll be able to think more clearly and have a calmer demeanor. For more details, see the posts, “6 Effective Ways To Manage Stress” and “10 Special Qualities of People, Who Don’t Feel Anxious.”

Furthermore, be sure to research the company so that you’ll be ready to discuss what you like about it and how you can help. You’ll also be able to make a list of questions based on the information you gathered.

The Day of the Job Interview

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To help make a good impression, dress appropriately and check in/log in about 10-15 minutes early for your interview. Personally, I would dress one level up from their dress code. For example, if t-shirts and jeans are the type of clothes worn at the workplace, then I’d wear business casual attire to the interview. Or, if business casual is the typical style, I’d wear more formal business attire to the interview. GlassDoor has good tips on what to wear to an interview as well as what qualifies as business casual attire.

Then, discuss how your skills, education, and/or experience apply to the job requirements. Your attitude is as important as your words. Be attentive yet relaxed, confident yet humble. You may be interested in “Yes, You Can Stop Feeling Insecure! Here’s How.”

After the Job Interview

As mentioned in Psalm 37, trust God to order your steps to the right place. If you aren’t chosen, don’t be hard on yourself—the job just wasn’t meant to be. There’s probably something better ahead so don’t give up. (See “Defeat Self-Criticism” and Sheenia Denae’s post, “Famous Quotes to Inspire You to Succeed in Life.”)

To reduce worrying, remember the times when God helped you through what seemed to be impossible circumstances. Thus, in closing, enjoy Carrie Underwood and CeCe Winans’ performance of “Great is Thy Faithfulness.”

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1984 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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  1. Sheenia

    Great post! I agree that seeking God for guidance in every aspect of our lives is key.

    1. Gina Leggio

      Thanks so much for your comment. Yes indeed, God knows the purpose He created us for, and so He can guide us. 🙂

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